My advice is this: Settle! Thatrs right

My advice is this: Settle! Thatrs right. Donrt worry about passion or intense connection. Donrt nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling "Bravo!" in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (Itrs hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about whors changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.)
Obviously, I wasnrt always an advocate of settling. In fact, it took not settling to make me realize that settling is the better option, and even though settling is a rampant phenomenon, talking about it in a positive light makes people profoundly uncomfortable. Whenever I make the case for settling, people look at me with creased brows of disapproval or frowns of disappointment, the way a child might look at an older sibling who just informed her that Jerryrs Kids arenrt going to walk, even if you send them money. Itrs not only politically incorrect to get behind settling, itrs downright un-American. Our culture tells us to keep our eyes on the prize (while our mothers, who know better, tell us not to be so picky), and the theme of holding out for true love (whatever that ismlook at the divorce rate) permeates our collective mentality.